Samantha's Dating Thought: Can Vacation Romances Last?

If you're single and heading out of town for vacation this summer, you might be crossing your fingers for a passionate vacation romance. Vacation romances occupy a special place in our hearts. They thrill us because they have a set expiration date. When we're in the midst of one, we can already feel it metamorphosing into a precious memory. And once one is over, we feel teased by what was an impossible love, however, knowing that it was the impossibility that gave it its heightened sense of meaning.

If you decide that you don't want your summer romance to turn into a memory, and instead want to bring it home with you to real life, there are a few questions you should first ask yourself:

• Are you sure that your new love is single and available? People will often use vacations as excuses to cheat on their partners. Make sure this isn't your love.
• Would your lives fit together? Do you have common interests, values, and ways of life? While you're away from home, you may allow yourself to overlook these important commonalities, and not see the potential flaws in your new lover. 
• If your love doesn't live in your area, are you willing to put in all of the labor that a working long-distance relationship requires? 

If your answer to these three questions is"yes", it is definitely worth exploring this relationship at home in real life. If not, it may be best to relinquish this romance, knowing that it will always live as a treasured memory.

How To Tell If Your Summer Fling Is The Real Thing

Summer is a prime time to fall in love. The days are long and the nights are warm. Your bronzed skin and beachy hair make you feel especially sexy. And, wearing skimpy clothing is perfectly dignified and socially acceptable. It’s no wonder that romance seems to particularly spark in this season. 

Is your summer fling meant to last?

However, not all summer loves are meant to last. Here are some tips to help you decipher if your relationship is built to endure through the fall and beyond, or if you should fling your beau to the curb on Labor Day.

It might be just a fling if: 

• You find yourself looking forward to your return to “real-life”
• You don't know his middle name, or other basic information about him
•  You can’t picture him without his tan and surfboard

It might be the real thing if:

• You have met his buddies, or better yet, his family
• You spend time together doing normal things, like cooking dinner or watching a movie on the couch
• You are already planning a couples Halloween costume 

So what are you going to do with your summer love?

Samantha's Dating Tip-Summer Flings can help you get into a real relationship

Whether you want to face the reality of it or not, the summer is almost over. However, that doesn't mean you can't still engage in a fun summer fling that will get you back out into the dating scene! With long nights, steamy days and sun-kissed people everywhere, summer is the best time to have a little fun .Take advantage of these last few weeks and get out there, look sexy and flirt. Sometimes you need a little fun to get your groove back and remember how desired and eligible you really are. Here are a few tips for how to make the most of a summer fling if you decide to have one:

1. Don't take things too seriously. The whole point of a summer fling is to have a fun, laid-back relationship. Remember to think of it as just a fling, fun with no strings attached.  Of course it could turn into something more in the long run but it is extremely important to take things one day at a time.

2. Don't have great expectations. You will stress yourself out if you start forming post-summer expectations surrounding your fling especially in the beginning when you don't even know if you will ever see the person again. If things start to change and both of you start to  feel like you are getting more serious, then definitely talk about it, but in the meantime, avoid putting pressure and a label on your steamy situation.

3. Enjoy yourself. This is the most important rule. The summer fling is about being carefree, not having to worry about the regular rules of dating; when or if he will call, what he's doing or where he is; instead a fling is for you and you alone, for you to have fun and to get your flirty personality again so you can meet "the One" when you are ready. The main goal is for both of you to enjoy yourselves, let loose and try something new. When you least expect it, you might be surprised that your fling could really spring into something else!