Love On TV: Love In The Wild

If you are looking for a guilty pleasure this summer, go ahead and check out Love in the Wild . It is part Survivor, part Bachelor Pad and part Amazing Race with sexy host, Jenny McCarthy. It's not surprising that romance brews and hormones rage when these sexy singles as out in the Wild (check out the fitness trainer and the yoga instructor.) Good watercooler conversation...

Samantha's Dating Ponder-Can You Live With Your Ex?

Now that our guilty pleasure of the summer-The Bachelorette-is over, there is a new show just like it. Season 2 of Bachelor Pad started earlier this week and after just one episode, it sure looks like it is going to be a juicy season. For starters, Vienna and Jake reunite after a not so amicable yet very public break up after she was the winner of season 14 of The Bachelor. Except this time, Vienna is very much involved with Kasey Kahl, a contestant on season 5 of The Bachelorette. With so many hotties under one roof, there is bound to be some juicy scandals and budding romances. However, what will happen with Jake and Vienna? Can you live under the same roof as an ex? If so, for how long? Living with someone you once used to love can only stir up old emotions and create new turmoils and jealous feelings. So, it will definitely be interesting to see how things pan out with these lovers turned enemies living in the same house. What do you think? Have you ever had to live with an ex? How did it turn out?

Samantha's Dating Ponder-Can You Love More Than One Person at Once?

Whether you want to admit it or not, reality TV shows make for a great guilty pleasure during the summertime when a lot of shows are on hiatus. One of mine this summer is The Bachelorette and at the moment, all of America, or at least those who are watching it, is anxiously waiting for Ashley Hebert, the newest bachelorette, to give away her final rose in just a couple of weeks. Many sources have confirmed that she walks away from the show engaged, but to whom? She seems to have such a strong connection with all three of the final contestants; Constanine, Ben F, and JP. Is it possible to have such strong feelings for more than one person? It sure seems this way with Ashley as she thoroughly enjoys spending her time with each of the final three men. But, we all remember bachelor Jason who proposed to Melissa, only to take back her ring and reunite with Molly. My question is, is Ashley really in love with one of these men or is she just "in like" with all of them?? Have you ever been in love with more than one person at the same time? What do you think? Who will she choose?

Here's what I know... Advice for Vienna, Tenley and Ali on The Bachelor

Have you ever wondered what the girls on The Bachelor are doing wrong and how one of them will really close the deal with Jake?
Here's what I know...
The girls should have spent more time singing their own virtues rather than trashing Vienna. Jake had a thing for Vienna all the way through the show. This should have been evident to the other girls simply because even after everyone trashed her to Jake, he still never sent her home. At some point, the other girls needed to realize that their time would be better spent focusing on how to make Jake fall in love with each one of them rather than trying to make him hate Vienna.
Ali was the most clueless of all when it came to understanding how and why Jake was connecting with the other women. Ali wasted time and made herself look like a fool by obsssing over how it could be possible that Jake was interested in her at the same time as being interested Vienna. Perhaps, Ali,at 25, was too young to understand thatchemistry is an intangible and a person can feel it with many types of people.
Ali made a major faux pas leaving the show because of her job. No one's job, especially not one held by a 25 year old would ever be that important that someone would risk losing the love of their life. And what man is going to take a girl back who leaves him on national TV? A guy has his pride. The real question is was Ali the one who was getting sent home anyway and the show just staged or exaggerated the whole "work thing" to add drama to the show?
The girls should spend some time fixing the "missing link" between each one of them and Jake. For example, Vienna should realize that her sexual chemistry with Jake is not the issue and she should spend more time trying to connect intellectually and emotionally with him than getting into his bed. And, Tenley should realize that the sex is the big question mark for Jake with regard to her and she should be thinking about to putting outand fast!
The girls should be sizing up the competition and making sure that they let Jake know that whatever the other girl is bringing to the table, that she too has those same virtues. For example, it's clear that Jake likes Tenley because she has old fashioned values and seems very family oriented, so Vienna should be finding ways of letting Jake know that even though she is sarcastic and flirty, that she too has smalltown values. Just the same, Tenley should be sizing up Jake's connection with Vienna and she should be letting him know that she is a sweet, good girl but she can also be playful and fun.
The girl's should be asking Jake a lot more questions about who HE is as a person and about his values and virtues since they are thinking about spending the rest of their lives with him. Jake has been asking a lot of questions of the girls but they haven't been doing the same. The girls have been getting really caught up in winning, the drama and the chemistry. Now it's time to ask Jake some of the real questions on their minds like what life will really be like after the cameras and the hoopla is gone. It's better to know upfront if your ideals and values really mesh than find out later on when it's too late.
The girls should be suspect of a man who says he has fallen in love with 3 women at the same time. Love just doesn't come that easily. Sure, Jake can be lustingafter all the women, but love is not a feeling to be thrown around so loosely. The girls should be asking about the depth of his feelings for each one of them because if he can "fall in love" so easily and with so many women, how do they know that he won't fall "out of love" just as quickly???
Samantha Daniels is a well known Professional Matchmaker, President of Samantha's Table Matchmaking and the author of Matchbook: The Diary of a Modern Day Matchmaker (Simon & Schuster).

Here's what I know... People will sacrifice everything to get their chance at love

Did you watch the Bachelor last night and wonder in disbelief why Jason would allow everyone in the world to think he is a jerk and why Molly would take Jason back after everything, in the end?

Here's what I know...

(1) Women want the fairytale and the dream and are willing to endure anything ,even their Prince turning into a world class jerk on national TV.

2) Women will forget that a guy broke up with them or treated them crappy when the guy comes back and says the words she was waiting to hear... "I love you" and "I want to be with you." (Molly, like any woman, went to sleep every night for the 6 weeks after her rejection by Jason praying that she would wake up from this nightmare and be back to when Jason loved her and didn't pick Melissa over her. She then arrived to the "After the Rose" episode and got her wish, so of course she said yes right away.)

3) Women don't care as much about their pride as men do. They will even be humiliated on national TV, if it means getting their man.

(4) It was okay that Jason realized that he wants to be with Molly but what was really crappy was that he had to do the breakup w Melissa on TV. Why?

(5) Even men get caught up in the idea of marriage or why else would Jason had proposed at the final rose ceremony instead of just saying in a an "unprecedented Bachelor moment" that he had genuine feelings for both and wanted to continue to date them each one and come to the "After the Final Rose" show 6 weeks later and pick his bride?

(6) It is possible to be in love with two people at the same time for different reasons however in the end you need to listen to your heart when picking "the One."