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Dating Do's and Don'ts

Have an arsenal of backup dating conversation topics: where you last traveled, a funny childhood story, or your favorite new restaurant.

A man needs to know that a woman is willing to have children even though he doesn’t want her to be desperate to have them immediately. This is a fine line, learn to walk it well.

People who use dating services are not desperate, they are busy and desirous of getting married.

Men like women who go out on a flirtatious limb, and do something like send them is an unexpected email or take them for an evening out on the town.

Even beautiful sexy women get nervous before dates.

Always wear matching bras and underwear, you never know who is going to see them.

It doesn’t matter if a man can pick a great date place. At the end of the day it’s more important that he’s willing to go to the places you pick out since when you are married, women usually wind up making all the social plans.

Men who come from picture-perfect families can have very high expectations for their own relationships. Keep this in mind as you date and try to get this man to live in the present instead of his childhood past.

Men who come from divorced families are not always dysfunctional. A lot of times they want to have a better marriage than their parents had, and they will work harder for that.

Men like pretty, well-kept women, this is a fact. You need to do the very best with what you have.

You get invited, you go; that’s what my Grandmother taught me.

Answering your cell phone several times during a date is inappropriate. If you need to answer you phone, the polite thing to do is tell your date that you will need to do this at the beginning of the date so he or she doesn’t take it personally.

If you are in a bad mood, you are better off canceling the date.

If you are rude to wait-staff, your date will think it’s just a matter of time before you are equally rude to them.

Do's and Dont's

1. There are no supposed to’s in dating.

2. Excuses don’t get you anywhere. If you want to meet someone you need to be proactive and try to meet someone.

3. You cannot wait ten days to call a woman back after the first time you have sex, no matter what.

4. Just because you look good from afar does not mean that you will get a second date. Work hard to be charming up close and personal as well.

5. If you date a man who is a workaholic, self centered jerk who is not willing to try to change, you will be married to a workaholic, self centered jerk.

6. All single people are bad at dating, you are not alone.

7. In most instances, no good comes out of sex on a first date, except a little sexual pleasure (and that’s what a vibrator is for.) Don’t do it.

8. Always have a plan for a date. Women like men who take charge of dates.

9. Bad teeth are bad teeth; wherever you live, go to the orthodontist or buy Crest white strips.

10. If you’ve met a lot of singles who weren’t for you, but were good people, become an amateur Matchmaker. What comes around could go around.

11. Don’t be self critical on your date. How is someone else going to like you if you don’t seem to like yourself?

12. Everyone’s family is dysfunctional, but don’t scare your date by making him/her think that yours should be institutionalized.

13. People gravitate to people who smile, have good posture and who don’t cross their arms.

14. Indecision is a big turnoff. If you can’t make decisions for one, how will you make decisions for a family?

15. You get invited, you go; that’s what my Grandmother taught me.

16. Answering your cell phone several times during a date is inappropriate. If you need to answer you phone, the polite thing to do is tell your date that you will need to do this at the beginning of the date so he or she doesn’t take it personally.

17. If you are in a bad mood, you are better off canceling the date.

18. If you are rude to wait-staff, your date will think it’s just a matter of time before you are equally rude to them.

19. If there’s ever a lull in the conversation, go with a compliment. People love to be complimented.

20. Be wary of someone who immediately calls you their soul-mate, who comes on like a bulldozer, who makes jokes about the two of you moving in together immediately or who wants you to meet their mother before you have slept together. This is usually a recipe for a crash and burn situation.

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